kate+speaks

An honest one

So I’ve dated the man for 7 years this July. It has been a long time, we have never broken up and we have almost been engaged for a year. We’re only 25 years old and we probably knew at 17 that we were soul mates. He had a long term girlfriend in high school and I had one boyfriend before him.

So what’s the beef and why the story?

Every now and then someone seems to interject their opinion that we have only dated and (assumed) slept with only one other person our whole lives and now we are getting married. We didn’t sow our oats, date and sleep around, or basically know what it was like to be with someone else other than each other. They can’t understand how we managed to settle down so early with someone we’ve met so young. They don’t believe in concepts such as childhood, high school, or college sweethearts settling down forever.

When it comes to long-term relationships vs. dating multiple people over years and years, I will personally take the quality-long-term, even if this means I’ve only dated and slept with one person my whole life. Which is exactly where I am right now. Plus, its not like I specifically chose my life to end up this way. I didn’t tell myself that I was going to fall in love with the first person who fell in love with me and stay with him for the rest of my life–no. It just so happens that Jeff and I are the perfect compliment to each other, we have never felt the need to date others–feeling that nothing in this world would compare to what we have with each other.

Thats just how it is… What the fuck could be any better than this?

Its sad some people cannot fathom the fact Jeff and I just know–and we knew very early.

Thats just how simple and easy it is. There is no one out there better for either of us. How do I know? Because I’d give up everything if he wasn’t around, my soul would die with his–and vice versa.

Thats how we know.

What’s new and what’s good…

I will soon be unemployed. I’ve tried and I’ve tried and the work world just won’t be accepting me right now. My contract ends on Friday, after six months I get free lunch at the dope Thai spot a few blocks from work. I’ll take what I can get. Vacation is in about three weeks so I just figure this is my lucky taste at a semi-summer. Hopefully I’ll come back in July and someone will just have to have me. I do believe that things are working out the way they need to and a greater picture is at work here. [At least thats what I tell myself to keep me from being emo, we all don't want that now]

A trip to Vegas [in place of LA] is in the makes. As much as I don’t believe in the hype that is Las Vegas–I do believe in rites of passage. I should go and cause a ruckus, especially with people who will be leaving me for the east coast very shortly.

After Hawaii & Vegas my liver is going to be very unhappy. I look forward to it.

Me vs. Jeff + Lil Wayne

If you are a reader of my blog you might have read an online conversation regarding Jeff and his thoughts about getting an image of Lil Wayne tattooed on his forearm. The bottom line is Jeff loves Lil Wayne in some sick and crazy way that I just can’t understand. Lil Wayne is an ugly man, he can’t annunciate, and he’s a terrible rapper. SO…. of course Jeff copped the album early and he constantly tells me that I’m “ignant” for hating and not listening.

SO I LISTENED… This is what I heard:

From Mr. Carter:

“To you forever from me to you
I heard somebody say judge I’ma need a suit
I’ma need a coupe
I wont need a roof.
Fly in da beetle-juice beetle-juice beetle-juice.”

From “Playin, with fire”

“…Like lying…wait – watch, see I get better with time like a watch
Oshbegosh Posh Spice husband couldn’t kick it like I kick it bitch
I kicks it no serial like a landing I sticks it
Whatever she asks me after she licks it
That’s too explicit – but why you listening?
I smell smoke, and something sizzling
That’s her pussy so hey pussy play with pussy or play pussy…”

You’ve got to be fking kidding me. How do you appreciate that? Rick-dick-u-lous. You lose so bad I can’t even explain any more. Its too easy of a fight, too easy.

CASE CLOSED SUCKER. YOU LOSE. I WIN.

ON THE BRIGHT SIDE OF LIFE…

I haven’t had the need to buy myself gas for six months (because of my reliance on public transportation), so I guess my laughing inside at the price of gas–is karma biting me in the ass and now I’m forced to shove out $150 of money I could use to buy vibrantly patterned clothing and fake-tacky-gold-colored jewelry.

Damn you Karma, you get me so good sometimes.

P.S. I saw “Sex and the City” (who else?) and (NO REVIEWS FROM ME HERE) but honestly, it made me want to buy A LOT of clothing and shoes. It was very dangerous.

My piece for the week 6/05

_ Is it me or is it the coldest month of June ever? I know… I’m habitating in SF and I should get used to the 60 degree summer, but shit, its even cold down in Milpitas these days.
_ The 38 Geary bus is slippin lately. Its been six months of my life solely relying on public transportation, and I’m tired of it.
_ I would LOVE a SMART car.
_ We got hit with a $300 utilities bill between the two of us. Its fucking insane, supposedly, because PG&E “undercharged” us from Dec-April. All I can say is FUCK PG&E and the mom that raised them. They are basically just “estimating” what they think we should pay for the months they “undercharged” us. Jeff and I basically live in 350 sq feet and we are gone most of the time. We live in an unfortunate situation where we share a single meter with the unit above us (who is filled with three heads, who are here much more than us, and I’m sure–who are much more wasteful with gas/water/electricity)
_ Our said neighbors are also 1. Afraid of lint, because they NEVER empty the trap in the dryer 2. Seem to think its ok to leave their shit in the communal laundry facilities over night 3. Stuff the tiny garbage bin to capacity leaving the lid open for a racoon to ravage through it and leave an ungodly mess (happened 3x, the first two Jeff cleaned up the mess, the last–our third neighboor took care of it)
_ I know this is a bitch-fest, but believe it or not, I’m the least stressed out of the two of us right now. Couples have to balance eachother out, and for this episode in life I’m staying stable. Money is always a problem in life, whatev, as long as we’re healthy and happy. Maybe tomorrow someone we love will hit the Lotto, then life will balance out again, thats all it is…

So whats good?

_ Kweli is spinning at Mighty tomorrow night. I personally did not know he touched turntables but hey… an MC should be able to DJ right? Plus I bet his set will be filled with all sorts of dope things. But I won’t be there because…
_ We have floor seats to check out Kanye @ HP tomorrow night, I believe in the hype, and I hope he puts out.
_ Our high school friend Joanne is getting married on Saturday and we were lucky enough to be invited. Its the first wedding of two this summer.
_ Hawaiian Adventure No. 3 in less than a month.